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Are you struggling to find a
happy life instead of living one?
Does this
sound familiar?
Stop Wasting
Your Life – Start Living Happily NOW Have you ever
known anyone who was always smiling and cheery? You probably wondered what
their secret was (or maybe what kind of drugs they were taking). Today I’d like
to share with you what they probably knew implicitly, but didn’t know how to
explain. This secret may be the greatest happiness
secret that ever was.
It’s that genuine happiness comes only when we learn and use a very special
set of skills. Few parents or teachers teach these happiness skills and it’s
rare for anyone to discover them independently until later in life. Even so,
they’re usually known only implicitly, so they’re hard to recognize outright
and it’s tough to recognize the rules for discovering more of them.
Combine this with
the many myths and wrong sayings about happiness and it’s easy to understand
why so many of us really have to struggle to find happiness. Maybe you’ve
heard some of these myths before… Common Happiness
Myths: > Happiness depends on your circumstances. > You can’t expect to be happy all the time. > When you get what you want, then you’ll be
happy. > The only happy people are 6 feet under. > You can’t be happy if your health is gone. > Happiness never lasts. > Happiness is unpredictable. > Genuine happiness happens only to a lucky
few. > Happiness requires lots of money. If several of
these sounded right to you, it’s not surprising. They sounded right because
no one taught you how to create happiness. Yes…I said, “create.” Creating Your
Own Happiness If you remember
nothing else from this article, please remember that genuine happiness is created. It’s not mysterious. It’s not
random. It doesn’t require that things go your way, or that you win the
lottery. Genuine
Happiness Is Created! (Always,
every time, everywhere, in every circumstance, no matter what.) You might be
thinking, “Yeah, when I get that red sports car, mansion, yacht, a pile of money,
and gorgeous wife or husband, I’ll definitely have created my own
happiness.” This belief is a happiness myth and it’s commonly expressed as, “I’ll be
happy when….” In fact, it’s what drives so many people to work so hard all-the-while
believing they’re “creating better lives” for themselves. The truth is that
most of what they create is: time pressure, financial stress, isolation,
upset, anger, frustration, and deprivation of happiness. Then, they wonder: > How come other people have all the fun? > Why is life so hard? > Why can’t my life be like so-and-so’s? > Will I ever get out from under these bills
and all this time pressure? > Why can’t I have a great job working for
people who appreciate me? > Why can’t I ever relax? > WHAT AM I DOING WRONG? They work so hard
without ever recognizing they don’t know how to create happiness, that
the way they’re going about it is all wrong, and that all their effort is
focused in the wrong direction.
The GOOD NEWS is that happiness is
definitely created and almost entirely controllable, but not in the way you might imagine. A Little
Example Here’s an
illustrative example to show how feelings are created. Several times in
your life you’ve been in a public place and you’ve seen someone who needed
help. Maybe it was an elderly person struggling with a shopping cart, a
handicapped person wrestling with a door, a homeless person requesting spare
change, or even a traffic accident victim who needed first aid. In that moment,
you decided to help. Afterwards, what
happened? You felt good, didn’t you? In fact, you may have reflected back on
your actions for days afterwards, and each time you felt the warm glow of
your kindness. That feeling wasn’t random at all. You
created those feelings! Feelings are
created! Feelings are most
definitely created. You can create anger, peacefulness, excitement, anxiety,
love, and yes, even happiness. For example, can
you think of a way you could create anxiety? Sure! Just start thinking about
things that could kill you. Maybe you have cancer right now and don’t know
it. It’s been brewing in your system for years and next month you’ll feel a
lump somewhere, or there will be blood in your urine, or you’ll feel deep
pain in your bones. Let your mind run with this idea and you can quickly create
feelings of anxiety. I’ll bet you can create
feelings of financial stress by reviewing all the things you’ve done wrong at
work, and all the times your boss or client could have perceived the worst in
you. Think about all the things you thought you got away with, but were
secretly discovered and reported. You’re just steps away from financial ruin. What about love?
Can you think of a way to create feelings of love? Of course you can. You can
think about someone you love, how much they mean to you, think of the moments
you’ve felt closest to them, or of the times you’ve felt most loved. Run with
the idea and create the love feeling. Every single feeling can be created (when you know
how). Happiness
Actions So, what do you
do to create happiness? Since I’ve made this my specialty, I can tell you
that there are literally hundreds of things that you can do to create your
own happiness. In fact, you can set up your life so that everything you do
adds to your happiness, every minute of every day. Just as you can
create feelings of anxiety, stress, and love, you can create feelings of
happiness. You do this using something called, “happiness actions.” Happiness actions are the mental and physical actions that naturally and automatically
create feelings of well-being. Choosing
Happiness There are two
steps to living happily ever after:
When you do this
consistently, happiness fills your life. To help you learn
these methods, I’ve created a happiness audio program that is jam-packed with
happiness actions. It’s called, “Happiness: The Highest Gift.” Happiness: The Highest Gift (CD
Collection) June 2005 became
a defining moment in the worldwide
recognition of happiness actions when this CD collection won the coveted
“Audio-of-the-month” award. Previous 2005 winners include: Nelson Mandela, Nobel Peace Prize winner & former leader of Dr. Wayne Dyer, prolific author and self-empowerment expert Marc Allen, publisher & author of many enlightening books
“Happiness
actions have made the ‘big league’ because of their astounding
ability to create happiness in people’s lives.”
Here’s What
You’ll Learn! Volume 1 –
Fundamental Happiness Methods
(Listen
to Introduction-6MB MP3) •
Introduction – The great secret you must
know to find genuine happiness •
Happiness Philosophy – The hidden
workings behind it all. •
Belief – Happiness comes only when you know the right
way to use belief. •
Belief Environment – 3 essential
techniques for building a happy foundation •
Hope & Hero Vision – Without
knowing these methods, happiness won’t last •
Getting to Your Happy Future – You’ll fail
unless you know these steps •
Opportunities – Living abundantly by creating
life-changing opportunities •
Talent Bank – How to get others to eagerly
help you build your happiness. •
Turning Lemons Into Lemonade – No wonder
happy people don’t have bad days! Learn the specific techniques they use to
find “gold” in bad situations. •
Positive Attitude – Four ways a
positive attitude destroys your happiness! •
Responding to the World – How to
create positive “vicious cycles.”
Volume
2 – Intermediate Happiness Methods • Focusing – The hidden microscopes and telescopes of happy people. •
Goals – What happy people know about creating
meaningful life paths. •
8 Essential Points – The critical
ingredients of happy accomplishment. •
Failure – Extracting happiness from failure by knowing
what to do next. •
Accentuate the Positive – Happiness
isn’t unpredictable when you see wisely •
Perspective – How to look through the “wrong”
end of the telescope. •
Awareness – Using
awareness “rightly,” to enhance the spirit of your life. •
Stress – Why you’re going to fall in love with
stress—not the way you think.
Volume
3 – Advanced Happiness Methods • Thought: Your Power House – Right thinking evolves you to happiness. •
Freedom & Creativity – Tapping into
your ultimate freedom. •
Fear & Fun – Removing fear by stealing its
power. Thinking as play. •
Higher Purpose – Deep meaning from the high
& noble spirit in your work •
Speaking & Hearing – Using each
part of your brain to create happiness. •
Thought Environment – How to
multiply your brain power. •
Freedom: How we lose it – Why we give
away our happiness on purpose! •
Freedom: The What-If Game – The
life-questions you must
ask. •
Unrecognized Freedoms – DANGER:
Listening to this track could make it impossible for you to go back to your
old way of life. •
Suffering – The 19 Must-Know ways of
destroying suffering. •
Acceptance – The master’s 20th
way of ending suffering. •
Judging – Ways your parents accidentally taught you to
be unhappy.
Volume
4 – Spiritual Happiness Mastery •
Spirit of Craftsmanship – Live the
spiritual life of the master craftsman. •
Quality – The master’s greatest happiness secret changes
everything. •
Depth – Opening your eyes to the great beauty beneath
the surface. •
Grace & Elegance – The master’s
secret ways of living in beauty. •
Reputation – Quietness of mind from pure
intention. •
Guest Mentality – “Feasting on life” by being a
good guest. •
Goodwill & Kindness – Happiness by
being of pure spirit. •
Forgiveness – No happiness without
forgiveness. Methods of forgiving. •
Gentleness – Be of good and gentle spirit to
become happier. •
Mindfulness – First, do no harm… •
Empathy – We are all more alike than different.
Extending your spirit.
If you’re ready to wake up morning after morning absolutely in love with
life, knowing exactly how to create your happiness, equipped to teach your
kids the happiness methods, and live the life you were meant to, click
here. May you find
great happiness, joy, love, peace and meaning for the rest of your days. Be
of good and kind spirit. Live well and be happy,
Julian Kalmar August 2005 Copyright 2005 by Julian Kalmar |
